This chat with Margaret Feinberg was great fun. She is such a truth-teller and person who digs deep, and I found myself being especially candid with her.
Here's a snippet of our interview. You can read the whole thing by visiting her site:
Margaret: What three things have you learned about God, yourself, and adoption since Love You More was published?
Jennifer: It’s been about 3 ½ years since Love You More came out. Since then, my kids have been catapulted into adolescence, I’ve written a few books, and I’ve entered more decidedly into what I must concede is midlife. (I’m 46.)
So, it’s truly a challenge to name only three things I’ve learned, but I’ll try.
1. Parenting teens is harder – and more delightful – than I expected. People who know my family often say: “Wow, all four of your kids are so different from each other.” It’s true. I have to laugh when someone pulls me aside – sometimes after I’ve spoken to a parenting group – and says, “Tell me the truth. Is your adopted child more difficult to parent than the others?” I appreciate the honest question, but I have to admit that I don’t understand (or misunderstand) my daughter Mia any more or less than I do the others, especially in this tricky phase. All of my kids have gone through enormous growth spurts (physically and otherwise) in early adolescence and all have had social, academic, and/or emotional glitches that have utterly confounded me as a parent. They also continue to bloom into delicious young adults whom I admire.
Read entire interview at Margaret's site.